
So there you are – returning home after a tiring day at the office, or maybe after an equally tiring time at the mall or supermarket. Perhaps you have your hands full with shopping bags and other stuff you’re bringing in from the car, trying to bring it all with you in a single trip from the car.
Most of all – now that you’re returning back to your home – your place of greatest comfort, safety and refuge – you’re already starting to relax, to unwind, and you’ve already dropped down the color code of mental alertness from your usual outside the house level of yellow to the semi-sleepwalking condition known as white. (Read about the color code here if you’re unfamiliar with it.)
What happens next? Perhaps you’re just a few steps into your house when – all of a sudden – three armed robbers who had already broken in while you were away jump you. The next few seconds could go either way, from a sudden and very bad outcome to you, to a still not good outcome.
How likely is this? More likely than you might think. Here’s a terrifying list of statistics that suggests, among other things, that a home invasion occurs somewhere in the US once every 15 seconds, and that 47% of home invasions result in severe injuries for people at home.
But let’s look not at the abstract statistics, but at a specific reality. Please read this Seattle Times article about what happened in the decidedly upmarket and supposedly ‘good’ and ‘safe’ neighborhood in the 9800 block of Marine View Drive, Mukilteo WA 98275 (click the link for a Google map and choose the streetview option).
This was a story with a happy ending. The sudden return of apparently at least four other people caused the home invaders to abandon whatever they had been doing; but it could have gone the other way and resulted in a much more serious tragedy.
Lessons From This Real-world Example
This is a very useful example of a real world situation. Although the article is brief, we can learn several lessons from it.
First, although the neighborhood this happened in is definitely upmarket, the four youths who carried out the home invasion/robbery were not locals. They came from Kent, which is 45+ miles away. There’s no way they’d end up on Marine View Drive in Mukilteo (the town is off the major arterials and the road is not really a through road at all and there’s not a lot of local night-life to attract out-of-town youths) unless they’d deliberately gone looking for places to burgle.
Yes, these days the bad guys also have to put up with long commutes on their way to and from ‘work’. Living in a good neighborhood is no certain guarantee of safety.
Second, there were a lot of bad guys. Three of them invaded the house, with at least one gun, and apparently unconcerned by the fact that an adult man was currently at home. Remember to always plan for encountering multiple adversaries. ‘Rats hunt in packs’.
Third, not only were there three bad guys in the house, there was a fourth guy outside the house, in their getaway car. Remember that just because you can’t see additional bad guys doesn’t mean they’re not somewhere close by.
Fourth, the girls returning home probably saw lights on, knew that Dad would be home, and never thought for a moment that just because their father was home, their house wasn’t therefore guaranteed to be safe. Not all burglars only attack empty houses. The most dangerous ones happily commit ‘home invasions’ and break into occupied houses.
Fifth – and we’ll write more on this another time – note how the four youths shot back at the home occupants when driving off. Normally you’d consider an assailant to no longer be a threat when they are running away from you. This is just one of many examples that contradict that assumption. Remain behind cover and/or continue the fight until they are safely out of range.
So, how do we apply these lessons and include them into our daily routines. Here are some semi-rhetorical questions for you :
- Do you ever stop to check your house security before entering it after returning from somewhere? Almost certainly not because the only thorough way of doing this would be to walk the entire perimeter, checking all doors and windows for signs of forcible entry.
- Do you enter defensively and quickly scout the house for signs of any current or recently departed intruders? Probably not, and we’re not necessarily suggesting you should, every time you come home.
- Do you have a weapon with you and ready to quickly deploy as you enter your home? Hopefully yes – hopefully you always – including at home – have a weapon close at hand.
Bottom line – you should always be alert when entering your home after an absence (short or long) and aware that arriving home does not necessarily mean you’ve finally arrived at your safest place and you can relax.
Sometimes it might be quite the opposite. You’ve placed yourself out of sight and earshot of the outside world, and until you are certain there are no threats inside your house, rather than being a place of safety, it is a place of possible danger. In addition, just because there are other family members in the house does not mean they’ve not been joined by home invaders too.
There’s no reason to become paranoid upon returning home every day. But two simple things will help reduce your vulnerability at this time.
All Clear Code Word with People in the House
First, have a system arranged with your family members, so that whenever someone enters the house after an absence, they call out some sort of phrase, and the other people in the house respond with a specific safe-word reply. It doesn’t matter so much what the greeting is that the returning home person calls out, but the response must be exactly the ‘all clear’ response, and anything else that is said instead is a signal for danger.
For example, you get home and call out ‘Honey, I’m home’. If your spouse calls out ‘Welcome home’ maybe that is the safe-word signal. But if your spouse calls out ‘Welcome back’ or ‘I’m in the kitchen, dear’ or anything else, that means there is a problem.
In such a case, you should immediately run away, out of the house and take up a safe position where you can watch the house from a distance. As soon as you are safe, call the police and tell them the situation. If you stay in the house, you risk becoming a part of the classic tv/movie cliché of the bad guy confronting you with a gun pointed at your spouse’s head and demanding that you too surrender. Leave the hostage rescue (a very difficult task) to the experts.
If you call out your greeting and get no reply, that might mean the people you expect to be in the house didn’t hear you, or maybe they’ve gone outside, or maybe they are under duress and can’t call out.
If there’s no reply to your greeting, stop where you are, look around you and listen. Call out again loudly. If no reply, evacuate the house, take up a safe position, and phone your spouse or whoever else you expected to be in the house, either on the home/landline or on their personal cell phone. Ask them where they are and why they didn’t hear you. Have a code word/phrase that means ‘all safe’ or perhaps use the same code word/phrase as if you were exchanging phrases in the house.
If you can’t reach whoever you expected to be home by phone, and if this is unusual (ie your spouse is usually 99% of the time always with their cell phone and it never runs out of battery, etc), then you have to decide what to do next. Call the police, perhaps. Wait a while and try phoning again, perhaps.
There’s no point in sneaking around your house looking for any external signs of forced entry, because if someone was at home, what could have happened is the home invaders simply walked up to the front door and rang the door bell, and your spouse or whoever opened the door for them. That procedure would leave no sign of any forcible entry at all.
A Simple Check Upon Returning Home
If you return home in a situation where you do not expect anyone else to be home, then clearly there’s no point in calling out to announce your return, because there shouldn’t be anyone answering.
Instead, as you approach your house, first be aware of any unusual vehicles parked on the street reasonably close to your residence (easier to do if you live in a single family dwelling than if you live in a block of condos/apartments of course). Then, as you get closer, do a quick visual inspection of the door frames and windows of your residence. If all looks normal, you can proceed to cautiously enter.
Now, once you get into your home, move away from the doorway slightly (this is a ‘fatal funnel’ – a point where bad guys would be expecting you to transit through and so may be ready to attack you there) then pause and strain all your senses to see if anything seems out-of-order.
Listen for any strange sounds. Smell for any strange smells. Look for anything unusually out-of-place. It is amazing the type of unconscious clues which you might pick up. You might hear an unusually loud sound from outside, suggesting there is a door or window open somewhere else in the house. You might notice something out-of-place. You might sense the slightest whiff of an odor that you’re not familiar with. The house might be unusually hot or cold. A light might be on that you didn’t expect to see on.
You might pick up on one of these clues without even consciously realizing it – you might simply sense that something is wrong.
What do you do if something feels somehow wrong? Do you urgently bolt out of the house and call the police. You can guess how that conversation would go : ‘Hello, 911? I just got home and, I don’t know, but something felt wrong, so I ran away and I’m calling you – would you send a team of officers over to check my house please, just in case there’s a burglar inside? No, I didn’t see any signs of a break-in or anything. It just feels wrong to me.’
That’s a request that might get you a low priority response some time later (depending on your police department), but if you were to repeatedly call on that basis, you’d soon end up with zero response or worse, a request to stop wasting the police’s time.
Instead, we suggest you stay doing exactly what you were doing. Stand still, using your senses as best you can, and particularly now your sense of hearing. If there is someone in your house, either they know you’ve just returned home or they don’t know this. If they don’t know, you’ll hear them moving before too long. If they do know, and if they are hiding somewhere, time is on your side, not theirs. You are in your home. They are out-of-place. Before too long, they’ll start to wonder what you are doing, and start to worry about what else might be happening. Standing perfectly still and silent will spook them.
Of course, as part of this, you’ll adopt a defensive posture and position, you’ll make sure no-one can creep up from behind you, and you’ll get ready with your self-defense pistol.
If nothing happens in a short while, you’re probably okay. If you’re still a bit concerned, leave the house and patrol around the perimeter, looking for signs of break-ins.
A Quiet Word About Silence
Note – at the risk of stating the obvious, it is best, when you leave your house, not to have any televisions or other sound generating sources operating.
Noise can mask what intruders are doing. You ideally should return to a totally silent home so any unusual noises are immediately obvious.
On the other hand, some people like to leave a radio playing or television on when they go out, so as to portray an impression of the house being occupied in the hope this would dissuade burglars. There’s nothing wrong with doing that, but if you do, make sure you have some type of way of turning off the sound source before you enter the house. Maybe there’s an app on your phone for doing this, or maybe you simply have an X-10 type remote control that can turn off the power to the radio or television.
Summary
Our homes can be safe places, but their usual safety can lull us into a false sense of security.
When we leave our residence, anything can and might happen in our absence, and we need to take some prudent simple precautions upon returning home to ensure it remains safe for us before and as we enter it.
Updates :
1. Please see our subsequent article ‘When Going to Help Your Elderly Husband is the Wrong Thing to Do‘ for another example of a home invasion/attack and where a codeword signal could have helped save an 84 yr old woman from being raped.
2. Please also see our subsequent article ‘Being Politically Correct Can Be Dangerous‘ for an example of the danger that is also present between when you exit your vehicle and enter your residence.